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Making The Connection

Saturday, November 21st, 2009

Mother kissing 4 year old sonThere are many different levels of connecting.  When you call out to your child from another room you are not yet connected, you are just putting out what I will term a location finder signal.  By the second and third times when you don’t get a response, your frustration is rising.  You are in reaction mode.

Why weren’t you getting a response? Possibly your child’s music or television are too loud for you to be heard.  Perhaps your child is on the phone, on the computer, watching a video or totally absorbed in some activity.  The reality is that you are not connected yet. Read More→

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Respond With Calm Balanced Energy

Saturday, November 7th, 2009

Balance Beam of Life Calm yourself so you can think There are many distressing situations you face as a parent.  Perhaps your two year old has bolted out the front door toward the road or your twelve year old told you to shut up.  When you get excitable and experience intense emotions Read More→

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How to Listen to Complaints or Requests

Saturday, October 24th, 2009

Dog And BabyListening is step 3 of my 5 step program.  So let’s review step 1 is connect, and step 2 is calm, balance mindset.  So before you listen to complaints or requests you must remind yourself of your goal, stay connected and you must start from a calm balanced mindset.  Otherwise things will quickly escalate and no active listening or problem solving is likely to occur.  It is important to step back from your immediate situation and think about the larger picture of child development. Read More→

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Limits

Saturday, October 10th, 2009

Pouty Girl As parents whenever we are in a stressful situation or we are unsure of what to do, there are landmarks to guide us.  The best way to gain perspective is from a distance.  You gain perspective by asking yourself what is the development goal at your Read More→

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Fresh Start

Saturday, September 26th, 2009

a brand new day Fresh starts only begin after your child has achieved emotional balance and after completing their consequence.  Ideally your child has discussed what will be different next time a similar situation arises. Fresh start means no holding onto mistakes, no sulking around, no “guilting”, Read More→

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