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Change The Word Chores

The word “chore” is probably my least favorite word, and chances are your kids and teens hate that word too.  But if your house is anything like mine, the word “chore” is very alive.  It seems simple from a parents’ perspective.  You want your kids to do chores to help teach them responsibility, to help them develop long lasting life skills, and don’t lie, the extra help around the house never hurts.  But we don’t see it that way.  For me it was “You’re too lazy to do it yourself, so you just make me do it.”

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Should I bite my lip and put up with the mess or….

Sunday, January 17th, 2010

Messy Room

Often parents find their child’s trashed room to be the epitome of total disrespect and defiance.  So what are parents to do?  Bella joined the forum and talks about her 17 year old step daughter and her ” Very, very untidy room..”  For well organized parents this can be painful.

As hard as it is to imagine, this is an important parenting opportunity.  Consider this, there is so much beyond making a decision to either close the door or to enter into battle with your teen.  Let me show you how it would work with my 5-Step System. Read More→

But You Said

Saturday, December 26th, 2009

FenceLamb

Boundaries always need to be clear and definite.  It is the intensity of your delivery that creates the difference in how your child experiences the boundary.

Yelling, scolding, intimidation, or shaming a child translates into the message “no one is in control here”.  Calmness provides clarity. Read More→

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Limits

Saturday, October 10th, 2009

Pouty Girl As parents whenever we are in a stressful situation or we are unsure of what to do, there are landmarks to guide us.  The best way to gain perspective is from a distance.  You gain perspective by asking yourself what is the development goal at your Read More→

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