Boundaries always need to be clear and definite. It is the intensity of your delivery that creates the difference in how your child experiences the boundary.
Yelling, scolding, intimidation, or shaming a child translates into the message “no one is in control here”. Calmness provides clarity.
Take a few minutes and stand in front of a full length mirror. Check out your physical stance that you want to convey the message Non-Negotiable. You need that tall silent stance that says non-negotiable. This is not aggressive, no towering over your child, this is just an in charge quiet confident posture.
Children are more stable emotionally when they are receiving support and reinforcement through appropriate behavior. It may be momentarily fun or exciting to do something you have limited but your child knows you won’t be happy. Your approval and disapproval have great impact. Your child naturally is inclined to seek your approval, to make you laugh, to be connected.
Deliver Messages of Approval or Disapproval with Quiet Calmness
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